March 27, 2011

Burning the Candle at Both Ends

This has been me for the last couple of months now...fulfilling obligations, trying to be there for my family and the people in my life. Trying to keep my household afloat--struggling to keep the house clean, keep the bills paid, the fridge stocked, and tackle that growing mountain of laundry, in addition to my work schedule. I work weekdays from 8 to 5, which can make for long days. I spend my nights and weekends trying to tie up loose ends, and just keep things going for the next week...Superwoman Syndrome? I don't know about all that...Inability to say no? Possibly. All I do know is all of these activities has left me feeling drained and stressed out lately.

All I've really wanted to have is a little downtime to create something...I just didn't think I had the time, or I had "more important" things I had to tend to. [Insert laundry here] I don't know why I do that to myself. I figure I'll get to it as soon as I get X,Y, and Z accomplished.You know, as a treat or some kind of motivator. However, as soon as I get over that hurdle, something else pops up...That "free to be me" time becomes out of reach--once again.

I know I'm not the only one that struggles with this. Everyone has so many things on their plates nowadays. So do you deal with this issue? How do you incorporate that time for yourself (whether its to create, read a book, or do something else you do for fun) amidst obligations, responsibilities, and other things that compete for your time? I am striving to make changes in my life, to find that balance, so I'd love to hear from you! I'll be back this week with new posts, so come back to visit me! Thanks for stopping by!
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  1. OHH I know exactly how you feel, I wrote about this a while ago.
    I always put myself on the back burner. My needs would be delt with once everything else was done, and everyone else was happy.
    Well I kind of got burnt out, cried and then realized I couldn't be everthing to everyone. I wasn't perfect, and I couldn't do it all.
    So now I enjoy a bath by candle light and read a book at the same time.
    I colour my images and such while I watch TV with the hubby.
    My girls can figure out some tiny problems on their their laundry.
    You really do have to carve some time out for you. I still have to remind myself this from time to time.
    Take care and go make a card :)

  2. I think we can all struggle with balancing our lives. Sometimes you just have to be brave, ignore the other stuff and say this hour (or whatever time allows) is for me and I will do this. Otherwise you will always find something else that needs to be done. I am trying to do this but it is difficult. Be brave and make time for you!

  3. I think it can be a constant struggle to balance our needs with everything else that needs to be done, and everyone else that needs our time and attention. I know that burn out can come on gradually or hit quick and hard and when that happens, I have to take a mental health day...I make sure the kid is in school and the husband will be out of the house, and then I just spend the whole day by myself, doing exactly what I WANT to do, not what needs to be done. It really does help. Hope you find the balance you are looking for, take time and enjoy yourself sometime very soon.

  4. This is definitely hard for all of us. But for me, if something is important enough, I'll figure out how to fit it in. I need to work out 30 minutes a day - not only to be healthy but also it also helps keep my depression at bay. I know that the ONLY way it's going to get done is first thing in the morning. After a long day of work, there are too many excuses. If crafting time is important to you, don't do the dishes one night or put off the laundry for another day. (I know this is easier said then done.) Ask the family to pitch in a little and help with chores done so everyone can have some personal time. If hubby is sitting on the couch watching a game, put a TV in the kitchen and he can watch the game while he does the dishes one night a week so you can craft. Wake up an hour early one day a week and get in your crafting before anyone else is up. If it's really important to you, you'll find a way...

  5. Oh good luck to you. Sometimes life seems overwhelming, keep your chin up.

  6. LOL! I keep hoping for the 30 hr days and 8 day weeks! (did someone somewhere actually say that we needed more than 5 hrs of sleep?!) Until then, I will just deal with my 3 kids, their ECAs and am glad on occasion that someone invented wine!